Sunday, May 22, 2011

Sunday Baseball

We are blessed to be part of a wonderful community of people that we share not only Sunday mornings with but also lots of time in between as we journey through life together. We spent the first part of this beautiful Sunday picnicking and baseball-ing with some of our favorite families. 

17 kids seven and under (yes, you read that right) and I think we held it together and even had some fun.












Saturday, May 21, 2011

Four Year Blog-versary!

What a week for anniversaries - May 21, 2007 - the day I started this blog. Four years of pictures, milestones, and stories that might not mean much to any of you, but they are priceless to me. I love that I was able to capture some big and small moments in our family's life and I love having a (small) outlet for my creative juices.

A look back...here's where we were at four years ago...


Matt and I out for a rare (at that point in our lives) date night downtown
in a photo that didn't make the cut earlier this week.


Still living in our first home (and just about to put it on the market).


Baby Ella was just starting to enjoy life - 
we had just survived the colic phase
and she was turning into a perfectly happy little girl.


Adjusting to life as a family of four.


Sometimes I forgot about these crazy early days 
of having two little ones only two years apart 
(that might not seem close together to some but my brother 
and I are 4 1/2 years apart so I never imagined having my kids so close together).


Our little man, 2 1/2 years old.
So cute, I kind of want to squeeze his cheeks.

Anyone out there been following us since the beginning?
(I wish I had a prize for you, but how about a big THANK YOU for sticking around!)


Thursday, May 19, 2011

the first decade {together}


2 people. 10 years.

A lot can happen in 10 years.

3,650 days.

There are the highlight reel worthy events: countless vacations, two moving days to new homes, three very special birth-days for three very special kids.

Ten Ludington Mackers.

And then there are the things that don't quite make the scrapbook but are still notable: six jobs (three for each of us). 11 cars...and counting...

It's so simple to break down 10 years in some ways, so hard to capture it all in other ways. There is so much that lies just below the surface...joy, grief, laughter, tears...the big ups, the big downs...

...and then there is the ordinary. How many plain old ordinary days (some of my favorite kinds of days, mind you) make up those 10 years?

When I look back at this last 10 years I see the big stuff - the events that would make the highlight reel - but I also see a lot of the every day...

waking up every morning to a husband who loves me, who faithfully provides for our family day after day, who unloads the dishwasher in the mornings while he gets the kids breakfast, who still makes me laugh like he first did 14 years ago.

When I look ahead I see our kids growing up, our marriage growing stronger, more potential ups and more potential downs...and a lot more every day...

Oh, and I see the house on the lake with the two rocking chairs on the front porch (no more, no less...those chairs are just for us).

And I am grateful. Grateful for 10 years together, grateful for the hope of many more years together. Grateful that my kids have such a wonderful daddy. Grateful that I have such an amazing partner for life (our little joke). Grateful that we have countless little our little jokes.

And really, currently, grateful that we have a week long kid-free tropical trip planned next month.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

well, aren't we aging well...

Tomorrow is our 10 year wedding anniversary and in honor of the milestone, I thought it would be fun to pull pictures out for each year we have been married. Only the most flattering shots were considered (much harder to find during the pregnancy/post-pregnancy years!)

We married young - we were both 21 when we walked down the aisle - and we have truly grown up together these past ten years. 

It was a fun walk down memory lane looking back at these years together. It was also eye-opening to find how few pictures we have just the two of us together, especially since the babies started showing up. Note to self: take more pictures together in the decades to come!

Engaged!
June 2000
Please excuse the pre-digital-camera-era quality on these first few shots.


Year One
Bahamas | March 2002

Year Two
Spring Grove Park | September 2002

Year Three
Spring Lake | June 2003

Year Four
Christmas | December 2004

Year Five*
Lion's Game | October 2005
*exception to the Only The Most Flattering Shots Were Considered. 
Sorry, Matt, that picture still makes me laugh. 

Year Six
WPHS Reunion | August 2007

Year Seven
Melting Pot | June 2008

Year Eight
Bahamas | January 2009

Year Nine
Chicago | August 2009

 Year Ten
Chicago | September 2010

Here's hoping for timeless style and good hair in the decades to come. 

Oh, and many more years of wedded bliss!

Happy anniversary, Hubby! I love you!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

third one's a charm

I have this theory about kids - it goes something like this: If you have more than one, they will end up getting you one way or another. (Or It Doesn't Matter How Many Kids You Have, You Still Haven't Seen One Like This.)

For example, our first child, Dylan, was quite honestly The World's Easiest Baby. I don't even have one single memory of him crying. Really.

Ella, on the other hand, came out screaming and didn't stop until she was four months old and we took a trip to the Bahamas (coincidence or was she just tired of her first Michigan winter??)

And Mady was a perfectly content little one...as long as you (and by that I mean me) were holding her all...the...time, making her our clingiest cuddliest baby of the three.

Another example: Dylan loved his pacifier, meaning he was a quiet content little guy but we had to go through the ditch-the-paci stage at 2 1/2. Ella refused a pacifier (see screaming, above) and learned to "self soothe" (HA!)

Mady took a pacifier for the first few months and then just lost interest and I thought "finally! I figured it out! we got through the first few months of newborn crying but now she's done and we don't have to worry about making up a Pacifier Fairy later!"

And then she stuck her thumb in her mouth. Game over. Kids win again.

I asked Mindy to take some 18 month pictures of our little Mady Mae. She's at a really fun stage but she also never stops moving which means it was time to call in a professional (I've always loved Mindy's work since day one and it's fun to catch up and chat while she snaps pictures too). Mindy did an amazing job as usual - I think these shots captured Mady perfectly.


In some ways, Mady as child #3 reminds us of babies we have seen before - she looks like her brother, devours ham like her sister, and treasures her blankey like they both do. But in other ways she brings a whole new set of qualities and quirks to the table.


She is our screamer, our wall scribbler, our cell phone snatcher, our uh-uh-uh (knows how to get what she wants) non-talker. 

She loves to walk anywhere and everywhere, especially outside.


(Dylan was happy to ride in the stroller until about age 4 when I finally evicted him).

She splashes in the toilet and likes to (ahem) fill her toy plastic cup in the toilet, also a new trick.

She bangs on the cupboard when she's hungry, bangs on the door when she wants to go outside.

(So much spunk in this tiny little person.)

She is our Craisin-loving, cheezy-grin-smiling, evil-laugh-laughing, fuzzy-hair-blowing, don't-box-me-in


baby 


girl.


Just a warning, parents: whatever phases you think you have avoided with your first, second or third child...whatever "my child will never do that" feelings you may have...if you continue on in this parenting journey and go for one (or two or three) more...they will get you every time.

Our #3. Our grand finale. She's giving us a run for our money.


And we couldn't be more thrilled.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

3.1 {year 31}

A year ago I wouldn't have even considered running a 5K, but that was before I started saying yes recklessly and with wild abandon.

My friends and I have a joke about turning 31 - we figure we have to start just going for things or we're going to slip quietly into middle age-dom, start wearing mom jeans, and gain 30 pounds.

We couldn't help but laugh out the window at each other as we met up at Steve and Theresa's to caravan downtown at 6am...in the rain.

The boys were a little skeptical (we're paying money for this??), the girls were trying to stay upbeat saying "Isn't this great?? We're living life!"

(It should be noted that the boys have an annual tradition of running this race and Derk kindly pointed out - "You know, this isn't the first year they've held this race.")


And beyond just getting out there and running, we are actually starting to do it well. We had a pretty lofty goal of finishing under 26 minutes - we didn't quite do it this morning but we came pretty close (and beat our previous 5K time). 

It was pretty cool to walk on to the street to our starting spot and keep walking forward until we hit the eight minute mile marker and realize there really weren't that many runners in front of us.

Not bad for three moms who started running three months ago.

Take that post-baby bodies.


I know we didn't finish a 10K today or a 25K or any other big running milestone, but I'm proud of us for what we have accomplished.

I'm proud of us for saying yes, for getting our training runs in the last few months, for hitting our pace goals today, and for finishing well (top 25 in our age group!)

Next up: a 10K in June and there is talk of this muddy hilarity to wrap up our summer. (Because why not? We're already in this deep.)


One step at a time. Look at us go.

Not bad for year 31.

Saturday, May 7, 2011

morale boost


This post is for those of you out there who are finding some of these blog posts demoralizing; I wanted to apologize because that's not my intention at all. Maybe I need to share some more of the context of my journey.

About 6 months ago I found myself in a pretty good funk. I had been at this mothering thing for 6 years, I had three small kids, the days were blending together, I was trying to meet everyone's needs but my own. Coincidentally (is there such a thing?) at about the same time, my friends suckered me into invited me to join them on a workout challenge and I decided to make some resolutions for the new year. 


Now a word about saying yes.


It's hard for me to separate it all out but at some point something in my brain switched and my attitude changed and I decided to try saying yes a whole lot more. (I am a play-it-safe kind of gal, not one to throw caution to the wind). Now I'm not talking about saying yes to meaningless commitments or to filling your life with a bunch of stuff that just makes you feel more empty. I'm talking about saying yes to relationships, to trying new things, to becoming who you were created to be.


You see, there are always about a hundred and one reasons to say no to something (lap swimming at 5:45am, anyone?) and sometimes - if you are lucky - there is one or two reasons to say yes.


Pick yes. Every time. Trust me.


A word about my crazy cool friends. 


Some of these things I am attempting right now - the exercising and the cleaning in particular - are journeys I am on with other people. Honestly, I would not have stuck with either if I didn't have friends along side me - encouraging, laughing, crying, and ready to take my $20 if I quit.


I believe God created us to live in community; we are relational beings. Please don't try to do everything on your own. Ask for help. Speak up when you're drowning. Seek out people who bring you up; cut loose the ones who only drag you down.


At this point in my life I am blessed with some really great friendships, however, there was a time not long ago when I was pretty lonely. I had great friends through out high school and college and then after college, friends moved away to start new lives in other parts of the country. At the same time an important friendship crumbled in a very painful way. I spent about a year of my life being profoundly lonely. When I look back at that period of time and the years that followed I can see how God brought amazing friends into my life - friends I depend on on a daily basis. My home team.


Some of you may already have this home team in place - invite them along on whatever journey you dream of living out next. If you don't have a home team, this is a great opportunity to form one. Look around you. Don't be fooled, if you're feeling lonely, there are plenty of others around you who may be feeling the same way. Strengthen your bonds with your neighbors, your MOPS friends, your sister-in-laws or cousins.


Yes, you are going to have to put yourself out there. It will be a little scary but it just might be the best thing you've ever done.


Some thoughts on journeying.


"Life is a journey, not a destination." (Honestly I thought Aerosmith made this up, but apparently it was Ralph Waldo Emerson). The day you think you have arrived...well, that's a problem because I don't think you ever really arrive. It's not in the arrival - it's in the getting there. I know it sounds cliché, but everything that I have experienced in the past 6 months is just part of my journey, a chapter in my story.


God created me with a unique set of strengths and abilities, hopes and dreams. He has a plan and he's invited me to join the ride. It's my job to actively work towards becoming the person he created me to be, to learn from the path ahead of me, and to enjoy the scenery that surrounds.


I'm on my way somewhere and it doesn't matter if I ever arrive. It only matters that I started.


And some thoughts on perfectionism.


I came across this great quote this morning: "Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing." I think God calls us to take an active role in this world, to do our part, to work towards things that bring him joy. I don't think God calls us to be perfect.


I'm not perfect by any means and our family isn't perfect. I know it's easy to read someone's blog and think they have it all together. In fact, it's quite the opposite. These blog posts and this journey were born out of the fact that I don't have it all together. I lose my temper with my kids. I don't always take care of the resources God has gifted me. I forget to look for the meaning, the beauty in the every day.


But I want to do better. Not perfect, just better.


And I guess that's my final word of advice: just start


My running epiphany occurred when I realized that running is 99% mental. What had been holding me back were my own thoughts (you can't do that, it's too far, you're too tired). So I just shut up and set out (see also: saying yes), one step after another, not thinking about how far I was going or how fast I was going. The only goal was to start. The funny thing is that once I started I realized it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be and the joy I have realized for just starting has made it all worth it.


Life can seem overwhelming sometimes whether it's the thought of cleaning out the junk drawer or the idea of taking better care of yourself. Don't get hung up on the what-if's. Don't wait for all of your circumstances to come together (hint: it's never going to happen. You will be waiting a long time).


Say yes. Find friends. Enjoy the journey. Forget being perfect. Just start.


I'm not going to lie - it's a BIG leap of faith - but isn't that often how the best things begin?



Wednesday, May 4, 2011

good {blog} reads

Here is a random assortment of blogs I've recently added to my Reader - hope you find something here you like!


Anyone else stumbled upon some good reads lately?

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